The Sextion: Serial Bailer
April 17, 2017This article was written by Haley Mathis
Who has the time or the guts for dating apps?
In a recent study done by the Pew Research Center, 15 percent of American adults have used dating apps. I, like many college students, am amongst that 15 percent. From Tinder to Bumble and OkCupid, the options are endless. Though having these apps and swiping left and right during my free time, I have yet to take the next step and meet my matches in person. I have friends that have had hook ups, summer flings, and even long term relationships that began on such apps. What’s stopping me?
From Tinder to Bumble and OkCupid, the options are endless.
Well, for starters, I’m lazy. I rarely even reply to my matches let alone meet up with them. The effort it takes to reply to each match and get to know them well enough to decide if I want to meet sounds utterly exhausting. Besides my pure laziness, my anxiety kicks in at the mere thought of going on a date. What if we have nothing to talk about? What if it’s awkward? What if they look nothing like their photos? What if they think I look nothing like my photos? What if they’re a serial killer? All valid questions in my anxious mind.
I’ve been told that I should take the plunge and go on a date with one of my online suitors. Even with my friend’s encouragement, I can’t bring myself to do it. Recently, I have made plans to meet some of my matches but I have bailed every time. Coming up with excuses like being sick, too much homework, or even family emergencies, I always find a way out of it. It has gotten to the point that when I make plans for a date, I already know it won’t actually happen because I’ll come up with an excuse.
What if they look nothing like their photos? What if they think I look nothing like my photos?
Unless I want to be single forever, I’m clearly going to need to push through my anxieties and insecurities so that I can put myself out there in the dating scene. Dating apps have become the new normal for our generation and I’m taking time getting the hang of it. Who knows, maybe I’ll meet someone in person and forgo the virtual dating scene. But for now, I will likely continue being a serial bailer